#love Marriage V/S Arranged Marriage: which one is successful#

By Urvashi Sharma 2 Feb 2018 Marriages are made in heaven. Marriage is the most essential & important step which means time of bringing stability in life. It’s the most crucial part of life which requires, maturity, capability of being independent regarding personal financial matters of spouse, loyalty , trust & mutual respect for those who really understands the real meaning of being married. It’s been prevalent in the society that its all “sanjog”. It’s been decided earlier before birth by God about the one & only special person who will come in our life & make our life beautiful. It’s been said that God knows us well & better than us that’s why whatever he decides is best for us. At first people don’t realize it but with the passage of time they come to know that really God is the best decision maker in terms of marriage. People have different point of views regarding marriage, some believes in making this choice by themselves while others believes this choice needs to be made by parents. Both types of marriages have merits & demerits as well. Love Marriage: love marriage is most common & use to be known.as the best form of marriage now a days which was not acceptable in earlier times. In love marriage its our choice where we begin to choose a partner by itself. We decide by our own who will be most suitable for us & even right match for us while spending time with a particular person. We begin to know them their personal life, their lifestyle, their values, their likes & dislikes, hobbies ,& interest better by having some leisure time with that person. For instance any person working in a same office or living in a same locality, we come to know a person better because in that way we come to know many things that will be suitable with us or not , we come to know what are his or her future plans regarding career, regarding personal life, what are his values in life, what is his or her view point in terms of family, this helps us in finding out whether a particular person is the right person made for us or with whom we will be more compatible. On the other hand there are some demerits of love marriages that parents mostly don’t agree with the choices, there is lot of difference in view points of daughter in-laws & in-laws, difference in there lifestyles dur to which daughter in- laws are not easily acceptable by groom’s family & even it takes years for daughter in- law to become a member of a family. Arranged Marriage: Arranged Marriage is the most common to of marriage & use to be the best form of marriage since earlier times. It was use to be the most successful form of marriage where we give this decisions to our parents with the affirmation that parents know us better so their choice will be best for us. The proposal gets fixed by parents only when we give them the surety whether we are interested or not in marrying with a particular person. In arranged marriages lots of adjustments are their in terms of their lifestyles, norms & values, customs & traditions. For a girl its like a journey that starts with making adjustments & ends with being a good wife, daughter in-laws & a good wife. Arranged Marriage is the most acceptable today also even in many places due to the fact that is prevalent in our patriarchal society that marriage is the decision to be taken by parents only. If we talk about which form of marriage is successful then the answer would be both the marriages are good & fine having equal importance , merits & demerits as well but the successful form would be only one in which adjustments are there from both the sides from daughter in-laws & as well as in-laws as well as which will have mutual respect, trust & loyalty between the partners. The marriage which will have all these will be the most successful marriage. Marrying a person is one thing but making a marriage successful is the most crucial task that totally depends on us which determines the success of marriage.

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