Personality is the reflection of the overall characteri of a person. Now a days for most of the students a good looks, a stylish outfits & a good communication skill makes a good personality, that is totally wrong. In real sense a good personality is the reflection of your thoughts, your attitude & your skills, if these three will be there obviously the good looks, & good communication will be there.
If we talk about in simple terms what a personality means it can be ”
An overall characteristics of a person that comprises of attitude, a sense of humour & our way of carrying ourselves is defined as a Good Personality.
There are some points to be considered on how to groom our Personality that helps us to achieve success in every aspect of life.
1) How to be Confident-
Confidence is certainly the most important factor which adds to the personality of any individual. A person’s confidence might go down due to mistakes, failure, guilty or any other thing which is undesirable. Some people often develop inferiority complex due to their physical appearance, caste, financial status etc. Such people perceive confidence as their weakness, while the truth is that confidence is an individual’s biggest strength.
Your confidence reflects your character, attitude and passion. You should be confident about who you are and whatever you do. Being confident will help you to express yourself and stand amongst the crowd.
Focus on your achievements rather than on your failures. If you do find yourself thinking about how you failed then look at what you managed to do right and how you could improve the outcome the next time. This change in attitude makes you more positive and that outlook will change how you cope with all the challenges you face.
Set reachable goals for yourself and break difficult tasks into smaller steps. You will be able to believe that you can achieve your larger goals if you can see the clear steps towards it and know that you can be successful by taking these smaller steps.
2) How to Improve Your Body Language
Body language plays an important role to judge a person’s confidence and personality. Try to make use of positive gestures while interacting with others. This shows that you’re at ease while having a discussion. Studies reflect that 75% of our communication happens non-verbally. Your gestures thus play a vital role while interacting with others.
Don’t cross your arms or legs – You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
Have eye contact, but don’t stare – Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you’ll get used to it.
Don’t be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
Relax your shoulders. When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening.
Don’t slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
Lean, but not too much – If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you’re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit.
Smile and laugh – Lighten up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem insincere.
Don’t touch your face – it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.
Keep your head up – Don’t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.
Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed.
Use your hands more confidently.
Realize where you spine ends – many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. Keep your whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.
Don’t stand too close. One of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don’t invade it.
Mirror – Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously.
Keep a good attitude
How to Improve Your Communication Skills
Awareness of your own interaction with other people is the first step in improving your communication skills.
You must accept responsibility for your own behavior and do not fear apologizing for errors in judgment or insensitive actions.
Your non-verbal communication is equally as important as the things that you say. Positive body language is extremely important in your interactions with other people.
In order to learn how to improve your communication skills, you must become a great listener.
Maximize your positive personality traits and use them in your interactions with others. Good communication and great listening skills are the most important tools you can use in improving your communication skills.
You can learn how to improve your communication skills by developing excellent listening skills.
Determination and self-awareness will make your desire to improve your communication skills a reality.
“We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Have an Opinion
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially (unless you’re a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.
Having an opinion and being able to confidently put it forward doesn’t just help making your conversations interesting but it also makes you look more influential and well informed around other people. Never shy away from projecting your opinions even if they happen to conflict with those of other people. Be well informed about all the relevant stuff in your surrounding and fell free to have opinions. It will make yourself feel important too.
To know yourself:
Be aware of your strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes
Observe and be aware of your moods, reactions and responses to what is happening around you
Become aware of how these moods and emotions affect your state of mind
Examine how you interact with others
Observe how your environment affects you
Following your Passion
A lot of people define themselves by what they do. Therefore, it is important to do what you love and what interests you. If you end up in a job or a career that you are unhappy with, chances are it is going to put a damper on your personality.
By committing yourself to your passions, you will help develop your confidence as well. Above all, whatever you choose to do – remember to do your best.
Make this as clear as possible
1. When you work hard at something you become good at it.
2. When you become good at doing something, you will enjoy it more.
3. When you enjoy doing something, there is a very good chance you will become passionate or more passionate about it
4. When you are good at something, passionate and work even harder to excel and be the best at it, good things happen.
Don’t follow your passions, follow your effort. It will lead you to your passions and to success, however you define it.
Be Open to Learning
One of the greatest virtues of successful people is their ability to learn new things. It is one of the greatest virtues a human being can possess. In fact, it is much desired leadership trait practiced and possessed by great leaders of the world.
Learning is an ongoing process and it only takes a halt when a person stops breathing. The ability to learning new things and evolve is pre-requisite to becoming a better you.
Grooming is the part of Personality Development .By personality grooming one can learn how to keep positive thoughts even in worst conditions also .IT helps us to establish our self in corporate world successfully. It’s really very important for a professional guy because a professional must know that ,how to communicate ,sit ,eat ,dress-up, and how to manage self also.
Today many institutes are conducting grooming classes ,even schools and colleges are also taking such types of classes , and these are really beneficial ,that’s why the craze of grooming classes is increasing very rapidly among students and professionals. Grooming basically focuses on appearance and maintenance..We can say presentation. Presentation should be always best..because it is the first impression by which one can get impressed .
Handle your emotions
Don’t do any things being in emotional attachment. Decisions taken in the flares of emotions will not be sound. You must control your emotions and be sound all the time. We understand by the word ‘emotions’ that the feelings that we experience within us such as love, pride, happiness, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, anger, regret, excitement, shame, etc. Emotions are the main influencing factor behind the every decision, work and task but if not controlled properly, they have potential to harm the things.
Be a Better Leader
Respect their time. No matter where you are on the corporate ladder, everyone’s time is important and showing that you respect their time speaks volumes about you. Set up reminders to prompt you in advance for a meeting you’re supposed to attend so that you’ll be able to get there on time. Take a break, often. It’s important to leave some white space in your daily schedule every day to recharge. Constant work does not necessarily lead to higher productivity. The best ideas come when you’re relaxed. Slow down, let your mind drift, and give yourself time for contemplation and reflection. Keep your ears open. Smart leaders recognize that they need to stop talking and start listening.
Volunteer and offer your time. Get involved in community and charitable programs. Be part of a food drive at your local church or mentor kids at a youth development workshop. Work smart, not hard. Effective leaders understand that it’s not the number of hours you put in that count; it’s the results that you get. Learn how to avoid time traps and focus on how much you get done, not the effort you put in. Make the most efficient use of your time by delegating tasks so you can focus on the things that really matter.
Why you need Good Manners
Good Manners make Everyday Pleasant– When you are well mannered with everyone in every situation, it helps you to reduce unnecessary friction with others.
It also helps to cast Impressions– A well mannered person creates a good impression for himself on others. when people are impressed with your behaviour you are ought to get more respect from others.
Good Manners Attract people– A well mannered person is attractive. You can attract the kind of friends and relationships you want if you are well behaved and polite. It makes people Comfortable. It make others Feel Good with you– You can create a more peaceful world where there is more care, respect, admiration and compassion for others.
Good Manners build Self Esteem– Kids and adults who are well mannered give respect to others which helps them build self esteem for themselves. People with self esteem are more likely to get what they want. It can save your life-People who always use good manners are less likely to get into life threatening situations as they do not disrespect wrong people. It makes you Feel Good and Unique– Now a days good manners are rare. People who let their good manners show around are noticed and admired by everyone and get an elevated status. Use of Good Manners does not cost anything.
Positive Attitude means Pleasing Personality
We learned that positive thinking is also manifested through a positive attitude, since our thinking, feelings, and actions are always a match. Our attitude speaks so much of who we are either professionally or personally. People despise those who conduct in an undesirable manner. It follows that when you have a bad attitude, you think, feel and act or even react negatively toward people and situations. Then, the impression you create on people is someone having a displeasing personality.
If you wish to create a good impression of yourself toward others, you would rather consider seeing things on a positive side. This will eliminate ill thinking and unwanted attitude. You will learn to deal with others with respect, having more consideration and sensitivity towards their feelings and opinions.
How to overcome the barriers of communication
Eliminating differences in perception: The organization should ensure that it is recruiting right individuals on the job. It’s the responsibility of the interviewer to ensure that the interviewee has command over the written and spoken language. There should be proper Induction program so that the policies of the company are clear to all the employees. There should be proper trainings conducted for required employees (for eg: Voice and Accent training).
Use of Simple Language: Use of simple and clear words should be emphasized. Use of ambiguous words and jargons should be avoided. Reduction and elimination of noise levels: Noise is the main communication barrier which must be overcome on priority basis. It is essential to identify the source of noise and then eliminate that source.
Active Listening: Listen attentively and carefully. There is a difference between “listening” and “hearing”. Active listening means hearing with proper understanding of the message that is heard. By asking questions the speaker can ensure whether his/her message is understood or not by the receiver in the same terms as intended by the speaker.
Emotional State: During communication one should make effective use of body language. He/she should not show their emotions while communication as the receiver might misinterpret the message being delivered. For example, if the conveyer of the message is in a bad mood then the receiver might think that the information being delivered is not good.
Simple Organizational Structure: The organizational structure should not be complex. The number of hierarchical levels should be optimum. There should be a ideal span of control within the organization. Simpler the organizational structure, more effective will be the communication.
Avoid Information Overload: The managers should know how to prioritize their work. They should not overload themselves with the work. They should spend quality time with their subordinates and should listen to their problems and feedbacks actively.
Give Constructive Feedback: Avoid giving negative feedback. The contents of the feedback might be negative, but it should be delivered constructively. Constructive feedback will lead to effective communication between the superior and subordinate.
Proper Media Selection: The managers should properly select the medium of communication. Simple messages should be conveyed orally, like: face to face interaction or meetings. Use of written means of communication should be encouraged for delivering complex messages. For significant messages reminders can be given by using written means of communication such as : Memos, Notices etc.
Flexibility in meeting the targets: For effective communication in an organization the managers should ensure that the individuals are meeting their targets timely without skipping the formal channels of communication. There should not be much pressure on employees to meet their targets.
Strengths and weaknesses analysis
It is a good idea to prepare for an assessment by performing your own strengths and weaknesses analysis, so that you are clear about what you think you have to offer to a company and in what areas you need improvement. Probing your own strengths and weaknesses will clarify what the best next step is and how you can improve yourself. It will also tell you more on where you would like to work and where you would be able to prove yourself most.
Explore your strengths and weaknesses in depth. What are your talents and when are you at your best? A core personality test can can tell you more in-depth what your strengths and weaknesses are, so you can prepare for an assessment even better. In addition to understanding your strengths and weaknesses, it is a good idea to think about your work values and motivations. They are important when choosing a profession and for your performance in a position.
Improving Emotional Aspect of Personality
Listening to debates on radios or television. If you feel that you have a cluttered mind, write down your thoughts, ideas, critique this thoughts & think about why you have those opinions. Do something soothing. Like taking a walk and going to deserted beach. Increase your trust in others. Prepare to see the best in people rather than the worst.
Identifying your good features and appreciating them.Recognizing the good in others .Recognizing flaws, then accepting them.Making the best out of difficult situations .Using hardships as a fuel to improvement. Improving your sense of humor and learning to see the lighter side of life’s difficulties.
Change focus, look for the positive
We need to become good finders, we need to focus on the positive in life. Let’s start looking for what is right in a person or situation, instead of looking for what is wrong. Because of our conditioning, we are so attuned to finding fault and looking for what is wrong that we forget to see the positive picture.
There is something positive in every person and every situation. Sometimes we have to dig deep to look for the positive because it may not be apparent. Besides, we are so used to looking for what is wrong with other people and situations that we forget to see what is right. Someone once said that even a stopped clock is right twice a day.
You may have heard this a million times “Think Positive”. It works.
1)Smile. And smile some more. It adds to your face value and to your personality as well.
2)Read a few articles in the newspaper loudly. This will help in communicating fluently.
3)Follow table manners and dining etiquettes
4)Take good care of your health, dress well, be neat and organized
5)Prepare a chart that mentions your strengths and weaknesses. Now concentrate on the latter and find ways to improve upon the same. Do not forget to strengthen your strengths.
6)Spend some time alone concentrating on you and yourself alone.
7)Practice meditation and yoga. It will help you develop inner peace and harmony that will reflect outside.
8Do not live a monotonous life. Be creative and do something new all the time. Nothing bigger than the joy of creative satisfaction.